The 28th of February will mark 21 years (updated for 2015) of marriage for Viking and me, as he’s become affectionately known by a few of my online friends.
During the last 20 years we’ve spawned two daughters and have encountered, like most couples, a gazillion obstacles along the way.
Recently someone asked me how we’ve stayed together so long, and although the Viking might chime in with “it’s cheaper to keep ‘er,” I really think there’s a certain factor that’s gotten us this far.
What’s Fitness Got to Do with It?
There’s always that initial attraction in the beginning, right?
Twenty years ago we met in the health food store I co-owned on Maui at the time and I asked if I could help him find anything.
He said yes.
It was windsurfer/surfer girl meets hockey player doing security for one-half of the infamous duo Milli Vanilli.
Yes, I said Milli Vanilli.
He loved to watch me windsurf and I loved to watch him skate. Although we were from two different worlds, it was a common thread.
Sharing the Ups and Downs
Relationships seem to ebb and flow. Sometimes you can feel so connected with a person that you seem to share the same thoughts. When they hurt, you hurt; when they’re happy, you’re happy. Other times, you feel like you come from two different solar systems.
But for whatever reason, through all of it, we’ve become each other’s support system and biggest fan. We share health and fitness info, check to see if the other got in their workout, and make fun of each other when we eat crappy food.
We try to motivate each other to be as healthy as possible. Not perfect, but healthy. We realize that one day, one is going to hold the other’s hand while they leave this life. We want as much time here together as possible. Somewhere along the line the commitment to healthy living became much more than just how we look. It became who we are and what has weaved us together.
Taking Fitness Beyond the Mirror
Sometimes we get so wrapped up in ourselves that we don’t realize how much being there for someone else can be the catalyst for a lifestyle change. We can read all the articles and links on Twitter and watch vlogs everyday, but until we tap into something deeper, something that becomes intrinsic, every feeling and life obstacle will threaten to push us away from what is truly good for us to be whole and healthy.
So if you’re here reading this post it’s likely you are interested in your health or someone else’s health that’s in your life – your child, your friend, your parent, the love of your life.
If you haven’t really committed to a healthy lifestyle, what do think might be stopping you beyond time and money? Is it undervaluing your worth as a person, or maybe allowing someone else to undervalue you? If you have made a lifestyle change, what do you think caused the change of heart?
You might also find mildly entertaining : How Getting Fit is Like Getting Married